Wow. What a bold and vulnerable piece of writing! Agreed, we mostly associate eating disorders with women and girls. This story has me on the edge of my seat, I'm really looking forward to hearing more.
I'm so sorry you're going through this with your daughter. I don't know how it feels but my mother does. My older sister ghosted our family about 8 years ago and I can't imagine how it makes my mom feel. I do know how it feels to lose a child but not in the ghosting way.
Tim, this was realer than real. I admire your courage to tell this story and share so openly -- this is the kind of writing I'm striving to create. And you nailed it. There are a ton of men out there with eating disorders ranging from dysregulated eating to major mental health issues around food. Most men battling one of those issues hold them in a deep, dark area of their heart. Terrified for anyone to find out, unable to show the vulnerability required to seek help. I've managed to stay lean so far in my life (granted I'm 25) but have tangoed with absurd overeating on countless "cheat days." Creating a healthy, sustainable relationship with food is a battle that must be fought anew every day.
Thanks for doing this work. I'm psyched to have discovered your writing and will be back for more!
It's sobering to hear this. Like many, I tend to associate eating disorders with young girls put in positions where they are practically ordered to succeed (gymnastics, ballet, etc.) and sacrifice themselves to keep their "perfect" weight. But clearly it can hit anybody of any genre put in a tight spot.
Wow. What a bold and vulnerable piece of writing! Agreed, we mostly associate eating disorders with women and girls. This story has me on the edge of my seat, I'm really looking forward to hearing more.
I'm so sorry you're going through this with your daughter. I don't know how it feels but my mother does. My older sister ghosted our family about 8 years ago and I can't imagine how it makes my mom feel. I do know how it feels to lose a child but not in the ghosting way.
Thanks, I struggled about whether or not to write about either issue. It was a rough go last year and it’s still a bit raw.
Tim, this was realer than real. I admire your courage to tell this story and share so openly -- this is the kind of writing I'm striving to create. And you nailed it. There are a ton of men out there with eating disorders ranging from dysregulated eating to major mental health issues around food. Most men battling one of those issues hold them in a deep, dark area of their heart. Terrified for anyone to find out, unable to show the vulnerability required to seek help. I've managed to stay lean so far in my life (granted I'm 25) but have tangoed with absurd overeating on countless "cheat days." Creating a healthy, sustainable relationship with food is a battle that must be fought anew every day.
Thanks for doing this work. I'm psyched to have discovered your writing and will be back for more!
Thank you for this thoughtful comment. It made my afternoon!
Tim,
Tim you’re a winner.
When you uncork the disorder, that can begin recovery.
And yes, you cannot out will an eating disorder which is not a weakness but a disease.
It’s taking ACTION, as you’ve done here: instead of binging, you’re writing:-)
I recovered from this addiction through a 12 step program. It took this very stubborn ego driven but eventually more determined person
awhile, but I’m totally free.
And, most importantly like others, I would love to hear more from your courageous lovable Self.
Thank you for sharing this important perspective.
Thanks, maybe it will help someone else open up and get help.
We never know how our words might help
It's sobering to hear this. Like many, I tend to associate eating disorders with young girls put in positions where they are practically ordered to succeed (gymnastics, ballet, etc.) and sacrifice themselves to keep their "perfect" weight. But clearly it can hit anybody of any genre put in a tight spot.
It’s easy to self-medicate with food and avoid dealing with your problems. That’s how it started for me
Thanks for your words- and you are totally right. Willpower can’t win against an addiction.